Post by ALEX on Jan 13, 2011 0:12:31 GMT -5
Maybe their best friend is just too pretty. It can easily be something as simple and minute as that. And it's always that girl who has big eyes and a dazzling smile, and every time she says something negative about how she looks, you get that feeling of wanting to punch the life out of her. She has an hourglass figure and once or twice, a guy you liked has asked you if she was interested in him, and you wanted to punch a wall. Sometimes, when it's your friend that makes you self-conscious, you only feel as bad as "man, I wish I were that pretty." But in other cases, it can go as far as having the literal desire to kill yourself every time you're around that person.
Maybe it's your ex-boyfriend's girlfriend that makes you hate yourself. You've gotten over him plenty by now, but you can't ignore how many times people tell his current girlfriend how pretty she is and how they love taking pictures of her, etc., and you can't help thinking to yourself that you'd love nothing more than to burn all of your pictures because you've never taken a good photo in your life. What makes it worse is that she's so nice, too, and you can't hate her.
Were you heckled previously? Personally, I dealt with people making fun of me because I was fat when I was younger. I lost twenty pounds during the summer break before eighth grade, then lost more after that when I started marching band. However, I can't get the past out of my head, and stretch marks remind me of it, and I get paranoid, determining that they're only there because I'm still gross and obese.
Has anybody rejected you? Maybe it was your boy/girlfriend, who dumped you and his/her next boy/girlfriend was skinny and 'better looking than you could ever hope to be.' Or was it a parent? My dad left before I was born, so I technically never did anything to cause that. But still, I know part of my self-esteem issues are because of him, because if he didn't want me, then who else could?
Do you overthink the beautiful people you see on television? The models and actors on TV and in magazine set impossible standards for the average teenager. Unfortunately, many magazines remind us that we aren't good enough, and it's very hard to ignore those messages. Even the actors on Disney Channel make us feel ugly or inferior.
Did/does anyone in your family ever cut you down? Some people grow up with emotionally abusive parents or siblings. Some people don't think that it's possible to be abused that way, but they should try eating a meal with a dad who tells them to stop 'stuffing their face because they're fat enough' or something of the like. It's easy to feel like trash when you live with someone like that.
Do you have a friend who isn't really your friend? The signs are easy to tell: if he/she tells you you're fat, or that you'll never look as good as they do, then they aren't your friend. True friends love you no matter what your physical flaws are, and think you're still beautiful.
Make sure when you're writing an app for someone with real self-esteem issues, you take these into consideration; it'll make them more realistic, rather than just putting the issues there to fill up the personality section.
Maybe it's your ex-boyfriend's girlfriend that makes you hate yourself. You've gotten over him plenty by now, but you can't ignore how many times people tell his current girlfriend how pretty she is and how they love taking pictures of her, etc., and you can't help thinking to yourself that you'd love nothing more than to burn all of your pictures because you've never taken a good photo in your life. What makes it worse is that she's so nice, too, and you can't hate her.
Were you heckled previously? Personally, I dealt with people making fun of me because I was fat when I was younger. I lost twenty pounds during the summer break before eighth grade, then lost more after that when I started marching band. However, I can't get the past out of my head, and stretch marks remind me of it, and I get paranoid, determining that they're only there because I'm still gross and obese.
Has anybody rejected you? Maybe it was your boy/girlfriend, who dumped you and his/her next boy/girlfriend was skinny and 'better looking than you could ever hope to be.' Or was it a parent? My dad left before I was born, so I technically never did anything to cause that. But still, I know part of my self-esteem issues are because of him, because if he didn't want me, then who else could?
Do you overthink the beautiful people you see on television? The models and actors on TV and in magazine set impossible standards for the average teenager. Unfortunately, many magazines remind us that we aren't good enough, and it's very hard to ignore those messages. Even the actors on Disney Channel make us feel ugly or inferior.
Did/does anyone in your family ever cut you down? Some people grow up with emotionally abusive parents or siblings. Some people don't think that it's possible to be abused that way, but they should try eating a meal with a dad who tells them to stop 'stuffing their face because they're fat enough' or something of the like. It's easy to feel like trash when you live with someone like that.
Do you have a friend who isn't really your friend? The signs are easy to tell: if he/she tells you you're fat, or that you'll never look as good as they do, then they aren't your friend. True friends love you no matter what your physical flaws are, and think you're still beautiful.
Make sure when you're writing an app for someone with real self-esteem issues, you take these into consideration; it'll make them more realistic, rather than just putting the issues there to fill up the personality section.
